Making Art Helped Me

My great grandmother was one of the most special, wonderful people in my life. She would fly from New Zealand to Australia every year for my birthday, and she would stay in my room, telling me countless cultural stories and tales from her past. That is why it pained me...

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It’s Ok to Ask Questions

One question I have about death is… I wish I could ask the person who died…...

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What Makes Me Feel Better

To get through my sadness I feel better when I take three deep breaths and calm down. I imagine I’m breathing my emotions into a balloon and then I let it go. The cat is thoughtful and petting it makes me feel better....

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Give your Mind a Break

Get out some paints and let your mind relax. Paint large strokes or circles – It doesn’t have to be anything you recognize. Give each color a feeling, if you desire, and pick which colors you want to paint with. For example, blue may stand for sad, or red for anger....

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Using Your Hands to Remember Their Hands

If you have clay or playdough allow your hands to squish, mold, or shape it. Using a toothpick or pencil, write your loved one’s name in the clay/dough. Spend a minute remembering a way they worked with their hands whether it was gardening, using tools, baking, dri...

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Take a Moment

Take a moment. It’s actually okay! I know it feels like you are in a fog. Or numb. Or lonely. Or maybe you feel everything’s a bit meaningless. I’m really sorry. It’s not easy. Right now I want you to stand up. Stretch your arms high above your head and take...

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Stop

Go outside, find a quiet spot to be still…and stop. Stop and observe the small details we are ignorant to as we struggle through the day. Sit upon a rock and watch the patterns the birds paint in the sky, the intricate twirl of the branching tree, the grasses, t...

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Perspective

Did I become a butterfly when I dreamed, or did the butterfly become me when it dreamed? In any case, butterflies are not confused, and even if they are, they are a small being, and so am I....

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Naming Your Feelings

Think about the feelings inside you that bubble up. Try to give them each their own name. How many feelings can you name? Once you name them, can you let them go?...

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Seasons

The passing of seasons can be painful. You may want time to stay still so that you won’t get farther and farther away from your loved one being alive. What’s something that you associate with each season and your loved one? My mom’s favorite season was summer....

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It’s okay if you’re angry

It’s okay if you’re angry. Angry at the person for dying. Angry at yourself for not saying the right thing. Angry at the doctors for not catching it sooner. Angry at friends for not understanding. Angry at family for grieving differently. Angry at your teachers for...

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Objects and Memory

Material objects often carry emotional and memorial value. What is an object that helps you remember your loved one? How would you describe this object? Is it soft? Hard? What other meanings does that object carry?...

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Locating Grief

We all grieve differently and we carry our grief differently. Let’s explore our grief and the places in our bodies where we hold and carry that grief. Start with a body scan - take a couple of deep breaths and scan your body from head to toe. As you scan your body thi...

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Sharing About Myself (With Someone Else)

I feel worried about… I feel happy when… I have regrets about… I feel guilty for… I feel safest when… I am encouraged by…...

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Embracing Grief as Transformation

The work that grief demands ought to be done every day. That work demands attention and love. The only way to navigate the world as we carry the weight of grief is to hold it with love. That’s also the difficult part; to not detest it, to not want to put it away in in...

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Color as a Guide

Let's begin by tackling one thing at one time. 1) Take a sheet of paper, take any color (smell it as it colors your fingers). Without thinking twice draw anything and whatever comes to mind. No judgements, no doubts. Try to flow with it. 2) Let colors speak for yo...

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Remembering

What are two things you learned from the person who died? Three ways I am like the person who died are… Three ways I am different from the person who died are…...

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The Weight of Grief

Handling grief can feel like an immense weight is on our shoulders. A weight that leaves no room to breathe and is vast and lonely. It's important to remember that there will be moments when the weight lifts, and you'll find the opportunity to take a deep breath and cal...

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Piecing Things Together

When we go through a hard time, we sometimes feel like we're torn up into a lot of little pieces. To help feel more together, rip up some old magazines and glue the pieces together into a new picture. The new collage is different, but sometimes it makes an even better p...

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You are Still With Me

When I lost my mom it was devastating and it was a hard thing to take in. Something that helped me cope was to talk to a picture of her and hold her ashes. This made me feel close to her and that she was in my spirit. I would hold her picture or her ashes close to me an...

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