Allowing Grieving

Grieving is one of our most natural activities. Thich Nhat Hanh says, “When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun.” Suppressing our feelings makes us feel inhuman and unhealthy. Crying is a most natural thing to do when you feel stressed and it can bring you peace, like calm after a storm.

Bring a pillow or blanket and a damp washcloth. If you would like to feel in control, set a timer for 10-25 mins. Find a place where you feel safe and comfortable, turn off most lights and put your phone down. Lay down with the pillow and allow yourself to cry. Do this for as long as you feel it drawing your feelings out onto your face. When the timer goes off, wipe your tears with the damp washcloth. Thank yourself for feeling and giving comfort.